Many call figure skating a sissy sport, a feminine thing. To the contrary, and to my unrelenting irritation, it is a very gender-inclusive sport, a sport of both sexes, a sport where men must be men and women must be, well, girls.
Consider the costumes. The men usually wear ordinary long pants and a more or less ordinary shirt. The women, on the other hand, with such consistency I suspect an actual rule, show their legs – their whole legs – and as much of their upper body as they can get away with. And they always wear that cutesy short little girl skirt. What is it with that? Or they wear a negligée. (Ah. It’s the standard bipolar turn-on for sick men: sexy-child.) (Why is child sexy to men? Because child guarantees power over. And that’s what sex is to men – power, not pleasure. Or rather, the power is the pleasure. Probably because they don’t recognize the responsibility of power.) (So even in a sport without frequent legs-wide-apart positions, the woman’s costume would be questionable. But I believe it is actually a rule – the female skaters must show leg. Like most rules women are expected to follow, this one surely was made by men, for men. As if women exist for men’s viewing pleasure.)
Cross-posted from: Sian Fergs
Originally published: 17.10.17
Leaving behind high price tags and uncomfortable fitting rooms, clothing swaps are all about community.
Last year Wiley, a trans man, organized a large clothing swap among his friends and community. Although it wasn’t exclusive to queer and trans people, most of the attendees were queer or trans. According to people who came to the swap, what happened there was magical.
Years before, when he was starting to dress in a masculine style, Wiley struggled to afford new clothing, but received a donation of masculine clothing from a trans woman. Now that he had more clothing, he was happy to pass these items on to other butch and masculine-of-center people. The clothing swap included clothing for fat people, a group that often struggles to find comfortable clothing. Books and beauty products were added to the exchange. Wiley himself even acquired a beloved Dave Matthews Band long-sleeved T-shirt. The leftover clothing was donated to worthy causes, like the Boys and Girls Club.
For years, clothing exchanges like the one Wiley organized have provided an important space for LGBT people. The exchanges give queer and trans people access to clothing that helps them express their gender identity and orientation. …
This article was first published by Racked. You can find the full article here.
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Happy International Women’s Day everyone! Here’s to hoping our daughters and grand daughters can grow up in a world where they aren’t judged, labelled or despised based on something they can’t control: their biological gender. Hell I’ll settle for a world where girls aren’t judged solely on the clothes they choose to wear because apparently:
If a girl wears ‘sexy’ clothing = she’s a slut
If a girl wears ‘normal’ clothes = she’s not sexy enough or is boring
If a girl wears conservative clothes = she’s obviously repressed so therefore desperate for it
If a girl wears a hijab/headscarf = she’s oppressed and obviously needs liberating
If a girl wears a burqa = she’s a terrorist
Dear world, please grow up. We are so much more than the clothes on our back.
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