Originally published: 03.01.16
Temporary and conditional, the “power” of female sexuality is granted by men and swiftly revoked once your sexual novelty wears off or you gain some weight or get too old, whichever makes a pornsick boner go down first.
Think about the so-called “power” you get from performing feminine sexuality in the first place.
Some money, an expensive little gift, a favor, an agreement or promise?
Something a man gives you in exchange for sex, or at least the promise of it.
That is all.
Once sex is over or you’re not attractive anymore, where is your “power?”
Female sexuality as something “powerful” is a lie. That “power” is a favor that men grant women only until their balls are emptied. It is temporary and comes with conditions. And it’s not bestowed at all, ever, on women who are not considered viable sex objects to the majority of men, who all suffer to a degree of porn-sickness: women past a certain age, over a certain weight, not white, disabled, you get the idea.
“Feminists” promoting sexuality as a form of empowerment do a disservice to all women.
As feminist women we have a responsibility to cultivate our lives beyond the patriarchal values of “beauty” and “sexuality.” It takes time and work to go to school, acquire knowledge, build a career or community, gain experience, contribute to a field, become wise. True power comes from those endeavors.
Too many women take the primrose path to “empowerment” by pandering to men’s facile desires, and find it’s a short path to a dead end. Consider Judge Judy’s quote, “Beauty fades, but dumb is forever.” Have some long-term vision for yourself.
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